"If we are open to breathing into our fear and being vulnerable with those systems and people who challenge us, our power as changemakers grows exponentially.

When we all accept that working on our inner life is working on our outer life AND outer work is inner work, we get down to what is real and shit gets done. There is no limit to what we can accomplish together."

Journey to TedMed

Preparing for this TEDMED talk gave me a wonderful occasion to pause and reflect. With the release of the talk I have the space to give more color to experiences and ideas I shared there.

When my husband Pat and I were faced with the pseudoxanthoma elasticum (PXE) diagnosis of our children, we were shocked. The linear, idyllic, progression of life that we expected was derailed. Instead, a surreal unfolding ensued. Day by day we realized that we couldn't go backwards to BEFORE. We also realized that we would have to go ahead into a space we never knew existed. This foray into biomedical research was beyond groping in the dark for a light switch to illuminate our world; it was like having to find the source of electricity to power us through.

Pat and I had no reference points, no landmarks, no understanding of genes, multi-systemic disease, or the fact that many conditions simply do not have treatments. We were attempting to plot solutions using tools we had never seen nor heard of before. As Pat said, "We didn't know a gene from a hubcap".

Because we were neophytes, we had beginner's mind and heart. For us, there was immense space around each of the problems we encountered and many opportunities for considering novel solutions.